5 Lessons My Baby Has Taught Me

I feel like as parents we are forever thinking of what to teach our children and it dawned on me this morning that even though my baby girl is only fourteen weeks old, she has already taught me so much.

PATIENCE

I’m the first to admit that I’m not a patient person, in fact, it’s certainly one of my weaknesses. I get easily frustrated – especially when trying to teach someone something – just ask my husband!

I’ve found that surprisingly my patience levels have increased tenfold. Even just this week Casey has been sick and wanting her dummy for comfort however as she’s congested the poor girl keeps spitting it out – in one setting alone I swear she must have spit it out over fifty times! Although it was frustrating I battled through it and in the end patience did pay off – she had an amazing sleep and all she wanted was to suck for comfort.

Although it was frustrating I battled through it and in the end patience did pay off – she had an amazing sleep and all she wanted was to suck for comfort.

HOW TO FUNCTION ON NO SLEEP

Until you have a baby you never really realise what eff all sleep feels like.

Hubby and I often reflect on those first two days in the hospital where we had no sleep yet we had to pull ourselves together for Casey and for each other.

I’m lucky that Case is a great sleeper but in those early days your body just seems to do what it needs to for this little life that depends on you.

Even now (and for a long time I’m sure) I wake several times during the night because I’m forever thinking of Casey and it doesn’t stop me from looking after my family and being a housewife each day. You just learn to function, you don’t have a choice at the end of the day!

TO REMAIN CALM

I easily get flustered and when you have a baby that can’t tell you what’s wrong it’s so easy to let go and feel completely overwhelmed.

Casey has taught me that it’s best to remain calm in these situations and that the calmer I am, the more likely she is to relax.

Keeping a level head also helps me to calmly go through each scenario to work out what might be wrong with my baby; has she been fed, changed, burped, has she had enough sleep, etc.? In the early days of having a newborn I wasn’t as methodical as I am now and I would let my emotions get the best of me.. which in the end didn’t help either of us.

In the early days of having a newborn I wasn’t as methodical as I am now and I would let my emotions get the best of me.. which in the end didn’t help either of us.

HOW TO FAKE HAPPINESS

I know this sounds incredibly strange but trust me, it’s an important one. 

When I was having breastfeeding issues (read this post here), I had several days (okay weeks) where I just wasn’t coping. I didn’t want those feelings to transfer to Casey, I didn’t want her to sense my unhappiness or stress so I would always try my best to smile at her, sing, tell stories, and just generally act as though I was okay… when I really wasn’t.

As my husband says “fake it until you make it” meaning that if you pretend to be happy sometimes you might just start to feel that way, and he’s right.

Those times where I wanted to pull my hair out or hubby was frustrating me for whatever reason, I would suppress those emotions around Casey and deal with them when she was in bed.

As I’ve said to hubby before, if there are times when we can sense we are going to have an argument (it’s going to happen, I’m a feisty one!), I don’t want to do it in front of our daughter.

The way I see it is I’m not going to wrap her in cotton wool but she doesn’t need to be around that crap, we’re adults and we can handle our problems together without subjecting her to that negative energy. I want her to see us as united front and to see how much her parents love each other – even if she is only a few months old… why not start off as you continue to go on?

IMMENSE LOVE

Deep down I’m a romantic and I fall in love relatively easily, however the love I feel for my baby is unlike anything I’ve ever experience before.

It’s that all-consuming, unconditional, immense love that just radiates within me. I know that sounds crazy but it’s true, I feel like I’ve never known this kind of love and I feel blessed to experience it every single day.

For those parents that said to me “having children is the single best thing you’ll ever do in you’re life”, I apologise when I didn’t believe you – you were right on the mark ?

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Kylie is a survivor. She’s endured events that no-one should have to experience. That’s why she wants to share her story; to help other women live beyond their pain so that they too can take control of their life, and live the life they deserve.

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