Why Being a Mother Makes Me Appreciate My Parents More

This time last year I was pregnant.

I found out on the 28th of May 2015 and it changed my life forever. It was this change that made me realise just how lucky I am to have such amazing parents.

These two things combined prompted me to write the following post on my Facebook wall:

“As a child, we don’t understand the depths of our parent’s love.

As an adolescent, we don’t necessarily understand the way we are loved, by our parents. Too often we are blindsided by external sources, be that boyfriends, friends, or merely teenage hormones.

As an adult, we don’t always remember what our parents have done for us in our time of need.

As a person who often reflects on life, I do remember those moments where my parents have not only stood by me, they have saved me when I wasn’t strong enough to save myself. They have sheltered me from pain, suffered for me, and cared for me when I needed it most.

Remember, you only get one set of parents.
Be thankful and never take them for granted – you never know when you may need them, and likewise, make sure you’re there for them if they need you.

You only get one life, be thankful to the people that gave you yours.”

As I read these words that were written just over a year ago, I reflect and look back through my life, my pregnancy, and becoming a parent. All of this makes me come to the realisation that I love, treasure, and appreciate my parents even more than I did before. I’m lucky that I have a very close relationship with my parents, in fact, I am proud to call them some of my closest friends, yet I didn’t think it would be possible to love them even more – until now.

I look at how hard parenting can be and I’m thankful that I am lucky enough to have two amazing parents that not only stuck by one another through tough times, they stuck by me when I was at my worst. They stuck by me when times were incredibly tough, when it took a toll on our family, and when I became someone that I’m proud to say I no longer am today.

I wasn’t an easy teenager, and I started to head down what most parents would describe as “the wrong path”. It wasn’t until a huge life changing event meant I had to make some drastic changes, and my parents had to make some tough decisions – ones that at the time I fought them against, and I didn’t understand. Until now, now I do.

It’s not until you become a parent that you realise just how much you love your child.

You realise you would give your left arm for them if they needed it, you’d do literally anything in your power to keep them safe. And that’s when I came to the realisation that my parents have done and felt this away about me my entire life, even when I didn’t realise it.

So, Mum, Dad, I know I tell you both I love you all the time, and I write this with tears in my eyes as I want to tell you thank you. Thank you for never giving up on me, for keeping me safe, for loving me with all your heart, for making me the person I am today, and for being the best parents and friends I could ever ask for.

I love you.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Kylie is a survivor. She’s endured events that no-one should have to experience. That’s why she wants to share her story; to help other women live beyond their pain so that they too can take control of their life, and live the life they deserve.

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